Tag: Making friends abroad

  • You Are Not Alone: Making Local Friends in a New Country

    You Are Not Alone: Making Local Friends in a New Country

    “But what if I’m lonely?”

    For many people, the fear of being alone can deter them from moving abroad. The thought of making friends in a new country where everyone speaks a totally different language can be daunting. But remember that not all new friends need to be English speakers! There is so much to learn from friends from other cultures and who speak other languages.

    We asked teachers who’ve lived in Thailand about the significant relationships they’ve made with Thai people in their communities. Keep scrolling to read about ten Greenheart Travel participants and the friends they’ve made through travel.

    This is my co-teacher Preaw! Isn’t she gorgeous?! Preaw and I became very good friends while teaching together. We would chat about anything and everything. We shared cultural differences and had a great time learning through each other. Preaw had a brilliant sense of humor which shined through her English. We had many laughs together and I miss her very much! – Emma F.

     

    I’m not one to usually do these sorts of things, but I love my student co-teacher so much. She has a fantastic attitude all day, every day. She is incredibly inviting and very sympathetic. She empathizes for those who are different. The thing I love the most about our friendship is that it is not transactional, we just have each other’s backs inside the classroom and outside the classroom at all times. This is a forever friend. -Kendra Grothmann

     

    A significant relationship for me while teaching English in Thailand has been with one of my co-teachers, Teacher Chanitnapak.  Over the past 3 or so years, I have had a regular meditation practice and have been studying Buddhism.  Teacher Chanitinapak, like so many Thai people, wants to help make sure others have an opportunity to get to know their culture. She attends temple regularly and has invited me along.  She even set up an opportunity for me to attend a weekend retreat at one of the local temples here in Ayutthaya and has taken time to teach me so much about Theravada Buddhism here in Thailand. I am forever grateful for her friendship and willingness to make me feel at home here in Thailand. -Mark Russell

     

    P’Piyanard (P’=Sister) and I met at Ratchaborikanukroh High School. She is an English instructor for the Foreign Language Department and Gifted English Program. I assisted her with midterms and said yes to an opportunity to teach her gifted class! In turn, she became a dear friend who took me to a 280 million-year-old cave, a traditional cloth-making factory and, Thai market, along with an amazing museum and daily kindnesses that I am so grateful for P’Piyanard holds a special place in my mind, heart, and life! -Kristen Andersen

     

    I am working at a school that has several farangs (foreigners), but I really wanted to make friends that would help me understand the culture and learn the language. I am not a social person so I stepped way out of my comfort zone to befriend these two fellow teachers. I waited until I found something that I could use to connect with them and then I went and talked to them. They were listening to “Descapcito” and next thing I knew we were going to Zumba class every weekday! You never know what small thing you could have in common with someone. -Adrianna Stuart

     

    Praew and Bow were my learning assistants (LAs) during my two months of teaching at Denla British School in Nonthaburi.  These two helped me establish relationships with my students.  Praew and Bow recommended travel destinations, local restaurants, and even escorted me to a local night market.  They are two cool cats =)) and I still correspond with them since returning home a few weeks ago.  -Tim McGowan

     

    Sawad dee ka from me and Teacher Tom. She is the Thai dance teacher at my school. We both love to dance so her and I started spending more time together after she found out that I was using her dance classroom to practice in my personal time. Now we meet after school once a week to learn each other’s style of dance- I teach her Indian and she teaches me Thai. We even recorded a segment of an Indian song that I had learned and taught her. With the little bit of Thai that I have picked up and the little bit of English that she knows, we manage to communicate quite easily and have a great time together. I have made quite a few connections out here, but I’m lucky to have met a teacher at my own school that I can relate to regarding our passion. -Kamalpreet Arora

     

    I included a photo of myself with a few co-workers (Nong, Net, Bo, Molina, and Paige) from where I was placed. These ladies are all learning assistants in classrooms. During my time in Thailand they were super helpful in offering advice on how to get around, places to visit, language tips, and just laughs every day. They took us to some pretty awesome places like Ayutthaya! The best advice I can give is when anyone offers to make plans, jump on the offer! you never know the connections you’ll make and the adventures you get to experience! -Katie Gentile

     

    My friend Saichon (to the left of me in the photo) is a teacher at my school. During my first week, she invited me to come with her to the temple. Since then, I accompany her about once a week to a temple meditation. In this picture, she took me and her friend, Pee Nong, to see a waterfall. I am getting to participate first hand in the Thai culture and making a new friend. The different way of life and the different perspectives that I encounter in Thailand in contrast to experiences and thought patterns in my home country and help me decide who I actually am. -Kim Turner

     

    I met my good Thai friend, Mimie, at a pool party in Bangkok. She was my first Thai friend and we immediately clicked. She was extremely friendly, like all Thai people, introduced me to all her friends and we just started dancing all day long. I had fears of not meeting people abroad, but that became my last worry because as long as you have an open mind, people love to meet foreigners and want to actually get to know you. -Rosanna Chan

     

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  • 5 Ways to Meet New People and Make Lifelong Friends Abroad

    5 Ways to Meet New People and Make Lifelong Friends Abroad

    Feature Image: Allison and her friends hang out around a fire in Australia. Photo by Ryan Hubbard.

    On my early morning walks in Buenos Aires, I loved watching the rising sun crawl over buildings. While working in Melbourne, I watched for ever-changing graffiti. Every day in Spain, I looked forward to my mid-morning snack of café con leche and chorizo sandwich.

    These are pieces of my life abroad I wish I could still experience. But beyond missing my new routines, what I miss the most are the human connections I made in those places. There’s nothing like a good laugh over a cup of coffee, or learning about a country’s troubled past through a local’s explanation of a mural that give simple things – like a latte or street art – more meaning.

    From chatting with local classmates to making friends through shared interests, meeting locals during your Greenheart Travel program can help you learn the language, culture and history of the country. (Plus, making friends is a lot of fun.)

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    Allison with friends she met through Couchsurfing.

    If it weren’t for locals, I wouldn’t have learned what Australians mean when they say esky, why Argentines walk around sipping tea from a gourd (mate!) or the reason why people say molt be instead of muy bien in some parts of Spain.

    So, how do you make connections when you’re in a new country and speaking a new language? At first, putting yourself out there might seem challenging. But, taking the initiative to make local connections has the potential to make any program – whether it’s a few weeks or a few months – more memorable.

    Here are a few of our favorite ways to meet people abroad:

    Language Exchanges

    Language exchanges are a great way to meet locals while improving your skills and helping them hone theirs! A language exchange is an event where language learners typically spend half the allotted time in one language and the other in another. Sounds perfect, right?

    Check social media sites like Facebook or ask your host family if they know of one near you. Linda Correll, a teach in Colombia alum, says she went twice a week to an exchange in her area called “Let’s Talk Pereira”. This event had an informal, conversational atmosphere and “ended up being a large part of my social life during my two years there,” she says.

    Even if you can’t find a language exchange in your area, try asking a coworker or neighbor for language help. For example, Kirt Smith, a teach in Thailand alum, says after he learned basic Thai he asked co-teachers for help reading and writing. “It’s a great ice-breaker and I gained a lot of Thai friends doing this,” he continues, “I found out that taking the time to learn more about the language is a fast-track method to earning a lot of respect among Thai people.”

    Use a Networking Application or Website

    Besides traditional social media outlets like Facebook and Instagram, there are many networking sites to help meet locals. For example, while living in Melbourne, I attended an event through the Welcome Dinner Project, an organization that connects establish Australians with newcomers. I met people of all social backgrounds and tried homemade dishes from each part of the world represented at the dinner.

    If you’re not in Australia, check for similar organizations in your destination and try the following websites:

    Couchsurfing is best known for connecting travelers with free places to stay around the world, but many people don’t realize it’s also a great social tool. Just as some use the site to find locals to stay with, you can reach out to locals that you have common interests with. Many “hosts” (locals) often plan social events for locals and travelers to meet. I connected with a Japanese man in Tokyo, and we spent an afternoon exploring the Akihabara area.

    Meetup.com is a site that connects people based on shared interests. Around the world, people host “meet ups” to practice capoeira, learn to cook, discuss literature with a book club – or anything else you could think of! This is a great way to continue a hobby while you’re abroad, or even start a new one.

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    Allison participated in a cooking class while in Siem Reap, Cambodia.

    For foodies, there are two sites – Eatwith.com and Bonappetour.com – that give you the opportunity to have chefs cook for you – right from their home! Because other people join the events, you’ll meet lots of folks as interested in trying new cuisines as you.

    Join Sports Teams

    No matter where you are in the world, sports are an important part of life. They may differ – though soccer seems to have a stronghold throughout the globe – but people love to be active. Marissa Ruxin, a teach in Colombia alum, joined ultimate Frisbee teams in both places she taught in Colombia. She had a blast, and made friends!

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    Marissa Ruxin and her frisbee team in Colombia.

    Besides practicing his Thai, Smith also learned the game of takraw (ตะกร้อ) by asking local men in the park to teach him. “The men were extremely welcoming and thought it was cool having a foreigner want to learn how to play. It quickly became a regular activity and we would often end up eating dinner together at the night market afterwards,” he says.

    Ask Co-workers, Teachers and Host Families for Recommendations

    One of the best ways to meet people is through your established networks. With Greenheart Travel programs, you’ll be with host families (and in some cases also have networks at schools) to ask for recommendations.

    They will have a much more in-depth knowledge of the city and its surroundings, so whatever activity you might be interested in doing use them as a resource.

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    Some of Allison’s friends at Buenos Aires’s Gay Pride parade.

    While I was studying in Buenos Aires, I asked my classmates if they knew anything about a conference I had heard about – the Encuentro Nacional de Mujeres, an annual women’s rights conference. As it turned out, one of my classmate’s sisters was going, and he connected me with her. Two weeks later I was on a 30-hour bus ride from Buenos Aires to Posadas, Misiones with 40 other woman. As I’m sure you can guess, I learned a lot of new Spanish and made many lasting friendships.

    It never hurts to ask for connections – you never know where it might lead.

    Lastly, Remember to Get out of Your Comfort Zone

    Speaking with locals can be intimidating. You might be nervous about your shaky French or suddenly blank on the Japanese word for restaurant when you’re asking a classmate for a recommendation. Maybe you’d rather sleep in on a Saturday than go on a rigorous morning hike, or perhaps you’re not in the mood to try the local delicacy in your town in Myanmar with your co-teacher.

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    Allison traveled through the Australia outback with new friends.

    Remember that starting a conversation or going to a new place for the first time might seem like a lot of effort, but the payoff of great experiences and good friends makes it worth it. I’ve had some of biggest laughs and greatest memories at events I almost didn’t attend.

     

    Ready to put your fears aside and see what happens when you get out of your comfort zone? Contact us!